Problems with family or friends

Martina’s family or friends may not agree with your decisions about Martina’s money and property. To help reduce any friction, follow the four duties described above and the guidelines we’ve given you.

Sharing information with Martina’s family and friends may help. For example, you might want to share any accountings you prepare or summaries of how you’ve spent Martina’s money. It usually is easier to deal with questions about a decision immediately, rather than to deal with suspicion and anger that may build over a long time. Martina may have told you to keep that information to yourself. Or, you may know that certain family or friends may be so difficult that it is better not to share information with them. Use your best judgment.

In the end, you have to make the final decisions. Even when deciding to share information about Martina’s money and property, you must always keep Martina’s best interests in mind. If family or friends don’t agree with your decisions, try to get someone to help sort it out—for example, a family counselor or mediator. See “Where to go for help” in the left sidebar this Guide.